What is it about a breakup that makes us feel so sad and depressed?

Romantic relationships are not that bad but when they end, it can feel really aggressive. With a breakup comes the feeling of stress and depression. You may feel like you failed and you are alone when you don’t have to feel that way. Everyone handles breakups completely different, and no way is really that bad. It’s best to handle your breakups in the way that helps you, but without harming yourself mentally, physically, or emotionally. 

So what are some of the ways that people handle themselves in a break up?

How to get over a breakup:

  1. Binging television and food

For many, they experience pain in a numbing, emotionally draining way. You may handle this by binging television, eating comfort foods, and crying. A lot of women will feel the stress and go drinking with their friends. Men do this too. You wallow in your pain and feel alone and sad. 

  1. Feeling extremely emotional

Some breakups come with very mixed feelings. You may cry yourself to sleep, or cry out of happiness it’s over. No matter how good or bad the relationship is, a breakup is usually pretty intense emotionally. Just remember, these feelings will not last forever. It gets better and easier, but it takes time to get to the point of not caring anymore. Honestly, therapy can be very helpful to walk through these feelings; if therapy isn’t an option, talking to a friend can help as well. You can also journal, but be sure to throw that journal away once you’re over the feelings.  

  1. Changing your looks drastically

Some people chop their hair off. Others dye it a crazy color. Sometimes, a wardrobe overhaul also provides the emotional confidence you need to get to it. Try to be careful – don’t do anything you may regret later. Some choose to dye their hair a vibrant color and end up hating it after the fact. If you feel impulsive, take a step back and wait before doing what you’re thinking about doing. This is especially true if you got broken up with by your partner for someone that makes you feel self conscious. That’s why the revenge body is a real phenomenon. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Set realistic goals and don’t compare yourself to your partners new person.

  1. Rebound sex and hookups.

Listen, we all handle breakups differently, but breakup sex and rebound sex can actually mess with your head more. You may look at the hookup as a sign you and your partner should get back together, when in reality it’s just that you are both comfortable with each other and have old habits that die hard. It can cause so much emotional turmoil that could and should be avoided. For others, they need to get back into the saddle and hookup with someone else to make themselves feel more wanted again. This can also be good or bad depending on where you are emotionally. 

  1. Explore Sex Toys

Using sex toys as a way to cope with a breakup is a personal choice and can be a healthy way to explore your sexuality and bring pleasure during a difficult time. However, it’s important to keep in mind that using sexy toys should not replace emotional support or healthy coping mechanisms. Here are a few tips to consider:

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Prioritize self-care: 

Taking care of your body and mind after a breakup is crucial. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in activities you enjoy.

Seek emotional support: 

Talking to a trusted friend or family member, or seeking help of a therapist, can be a healthy way to process the nerve-wrecking emotions.

Experiment with different sex toys: 

Exploring new dildos and vibrators, and rose toys can be a fun way to bring pleasure and break up the monotony of daily life after a breakup. Experimenting with different toys and techniques can also help you discover new aspects of your sexuality.

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Be safe and responsible:

When exploring new sex toys, it’s important to follow all instructions, use a water-based lubricant, and practice good hygiene.

Remember, it is okay to feel sad, angry, or confused after a breakup, but it is important to take the time you need to heal, regroup, and focus on self-care. Using sex toys can be a positive experience, but it’s important to prioritize your overall well-being.

  1. Booking a solo vacation!

This is our personal favorite. Plan a trip where you can go and explore by yourself or with a friend. It can be liberating to realize you do not have to do everything with your partner. The freedom to do whatever you like whenever you like is very liberating and can be exactly what you need after a break up. It is also a reminder that you can get through this. Plus, being single in a new place where no one knows you or your partner can really change your outlook on relationships. It allows you to explore people, yourself, and a new place all at once!

Breakups are hard, and every person handles them differently, but they help us determine who we are, and what we really want in life. That relationship didn’t work out for a reason, and it’s time to find yourself and someone that you truly are meant to be with. Taking the time to get to know yourself again is a huge plus, and not relying on someone else to make you happy helps you learn independence that you may not have experienced before. Try to take time for yourself, and focus on what fulfills you on your own so that you can find a truly fulfilling relationship when you are ready.